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Hello there <3 <3 <3
I feel your struggle, and I’m sending a hearty wave of love your way.
Recovering from this rut you’ve found yourself in will take work and time, so be prepared - but it will be worth it, because I guarantee you can get there.
It’s time for some serious self care. the hardest part will be changing how you talk to yourself, in what terms you think about yourself. I’m willing to bet that if a friend talked to you this way, you’d slap them and never speak to them again! but we can’t do that to our own brain, so we have to train it to be kinder.
start training yourself to use positive language. Surprisingly, even just the use of negative words and thoughts will spawn more - the same is true for positive ones. For example, Instead of saying, “I hate that i am doing horribly in this class” try something like, “I will do well in this class.”
Set goals that have positive wording.start doing affirmations every morning. go to a mirror and force yourself to say, out loud, 5-10 positive things. you don’t have to believe them yet, make them things you WANT to believe about yourself.
AFFIRMATION/GOAL: “I feel great about my body”
AFFIRMATION/GOAL: “I have an gameplan for where to get where I want to go in life”
AFFIRMATION/GOAL: “I am healthy and my body is healthy”
AFFIRMATION/GOAL: “I know I am a good person”
AFFIRMATION/GOAL: “I am intelligent and well liked”
these will probably feel like licking sandpaper for a while, but keep at it. you CAN change how you feel about yourself. I don’t know, there may be things in your life you do need to change for the better - becoming more organized, finding focus, or implementing a healthier lifestyle perhaps - these things will be easier to do once your brain is headed down a more positive path.
Even without a change in our life or body, this method CAN change how you feel about yourself, I swear to you.
Personal anecdote: When I lost 60lbs several years ago, I was happy except for one thing - my breasts. I had always been larger, and losing their comforting weight was actually a frightening experience. I had lost an important part of myself, and with them went an unexpected sense of personal identity.
because of the rapidity of my weight loss, I had extra skin there, and I saw them as saggy, unfirm pancakes, a shell of what i had been used to before. The social expectation of what attractive breasts looked like told me that I was nothing close to an appealing woman.
I - who had sworn forever against any kind of cosmetic surgery - was determined that one day I would have a breast lift done. they made me nauseated.
I eventually decided I could not continue to be so cruel to myself about them. I decided to start trying to love them again. I gave them the mental love that I did not yet feel. I said affirmations about them (that made me want to break the mirror at first)… It took several months, but eventually it worked. My body hasn’t changed much, but I love my breasts now as much as I did many years ago. It just takes training.
I’m in love with this girl. She’s gorgeous, smart, talented, funny as hell, and totally badass. That girl is me.
7/11 breathing. A skill to use for anxiety. It’s recommended to do it for 10-15 minutes. Like any other skill it does require a lot of practice. I advice that you practice it when you are feeling calm so you are ready in a time of need. If you lose count, which is easily done, simply start again until you do 15 minutes. It will also help with distraction even if you don’t get it right the first hundred times.
Breathing out longer than you breathe in actually activates your parasympathetic nervous system!
Anxiety is your sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”) setting off all the alarms, while breathing like this will set the parasympathetic system (“rest and digest”) into action shutting off the alarms and settling your nerves.
Other things that help: laughing, checking out what’s going on around you (moving head and eyes to orient to your surroundings), getting curious about something.
Take care, be safe.
Please use this, guys, it can really help calm you while being triggered and when you’re in a stressful environment.
awe i just wanna hug him and say it’s okay little rhino you’re a beautiful little rhino.
I’ve seen this about a dozen times on Tumblr and Facebook and Pinterest and everywhere else, and it’s usually accompanied by text about working for your dreams/never give up/whatever.
Except that unicorns don’t exist.
"You’re a beautiful little rhino" is right. You’re a rhino. No amount of effort is going to turn you into a mythical creature.
Your goals should represent the best of what you are, not something that is literally impossible.
Be the best rhino you can be, because unicorns don’t exist.
exactly. It says a lot to me that people see this image and actually think it’s a “reach for your dreams” picture, when it’s clearly a message about setting unrealistic and unachievable physical goals for ourselves, and comparing ourselves to unfair standards.
Even if Unicorns DID exist, it’s still a different species. No matter how long you diet and exercise, you will still be a Rhino. So be a beautiful Rhino, because you can’t magically become a unicorn! Make others see that a Rhino is just as beautiful as a Unicorn.
It’s interesting that we are so ensconced in our harmful media and thin-obsessions, holding ourselves to impossible physical expectations, that even this image fools us.